Why Love Marriages End In Divorce

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Love marriages are mostly the result of diving blindly into a life long commitment without resolving important issues, hoping things will change once married, responsibilities too will be shared responsibly and maturely . But once married, the fairytale ends and your faced with reality. The inability to resolve issues or make the marriage work leads the couple on the path to separation and later divorce. 

Here are some common factors that can contribute to the end of love marriages and potentially lead to divorce:

Unrealistic expectations
In the early stages of a relationship, couples in love marriages may have idealized expectations about their partner and the marriage itself. Over time, the blinders come off, they realise these expectations may not be met, leading to disappointment and dissatisfaction.

Communication issues
Effective communication is crucial in any relationship. If couples in a love marriage struggle to communicate their needs, concerns, and emotions, it can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and a breakdown in the relationship. The lack of love and affection may make both feel alone because of communication gap in the relationship. 

Compatibility issues
While love marriages are based on love and affection, compatibility in areas such as values, goals, lifestyle, and interests is also important for long-term relationship success. Lack of support and understanding in these areas can create ongoing conflicts and challenges that may be difficult to resolve. 

Financial disagreements
Money-related conflicts can strain a marriage. Differences in financial habits, spending priorities, or financial irresponsibility can lead to significant stress and arguments. If there is a lack mutual understanding in money matters, it ultimately takes a toll on the marriage. The couple may stop trusting and believing in each other. Thus stop confiding in each other


Family and social pressures: In some cultures or societies, love marriages may face opposition or disapproval from families or communities. These external pressures and expectations act as third party interference and can create additional stress and strain on the relationship. Thus making it more prone to long lasting differences and disagreements, causing even more distance between both the partners.

Infidelity and trust issues: Trust is a fundamental aspect of a healthy relationship. When one partner is caught engaging in infidelity or breaches the trust of the other, it can lead to feelings of betrayal, resentment, and an erosion of the foundation on which the relationship was built on, "LOVE".


Lack of commitment: Love marriages, just like any other type of marriage, require commitment from both partners to make the relationship work. If one or both partners are not fully committed or willing to invest the necessary time, effort, and compromise, the marriage may become unstable. One or both partners will end up lacking the motivation to continue in the relationship.

Remember, not all love marriages end in divorce. Many love marriages succeed and thrive through effective communication, commitment, understanding, and mutual efforts to overcome challenges keeping the foundation built on love intact. Each relationship is unique, and the factors contributing to divorce can vary widely depending on the individuals involved and their specific circumstances. 
Lastly, all marriages, especially love marriages, just like children need alot of unconditional love, patience, nuturing and time. One should not give up and quit so quickly but keep working on it forever. Just like our parents, grandparents and ancestors did, in the good old days. 

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