Rochelle Maria Virginia Vaz

Marriage is a lifelong commitment and you cannot leave it to chance. Hence choosing the right life partner is the key to success and happiness. Love Marriage: Love marriages are mostly considered to be marriages made in heaven, where two individuals make a rational choice of choosing their soulmates based on various mutual grounds of union. These choices can also be made on irrational grounds where the partners make amateur decision to get married.  Arrange Marriage: Arranged marriage is a type of marital union where the bride and groom are particularly selected by family members and family friends. In some cultures, a professional matchmaking sites or matchmakers may be used to find a spouse for the adult individual in question. One or both partners may or may not have a say in choosing their life partner.  Here are some of the pro and cons to help you decide between love marriage and arrange marriage: In love marriage, Romantic & Em...

Love marriages are mostly the result of diving blindly into a life long commitment without resolving important issues, hoping things will change once married, responsibilities too will be shared responsibly and maturely . But once married, the fairytale ends and your faced with reality. The inability to resolve issues or make the marriage work leads the couple on the path to separation and later divorce.  Here are some common factors that can contribute to the end of love marriages and potentially lead to divorce: Unrealistic expectations In the early stages of a relationship, couples in love marriages may have idealized expectations about their partner and the marriage itself. Over time, the blinders come off, they realise these expectations may not be met, leading to disappointment and dissatisfaction. Communication issues Effective communication is crucial in any relationship. If couples in a love marriage struggle to communicate their needs, concerns, and emotions, ...

Separation can be hard for both partners as well as the children involved. After separation from your partner, there are a few things you should and shouldn't do for your own mental, emotional and physical well being as well as that of your partner.  Do's : - Be respectful and kind towards your partner , even if you have differences. This might not be easy at first. That's why it's important to give yourself time before you start communicating.  - Give time and space to your partner as well. Keep the lines for communication open. This help you both reflect on your actions and decision.  - Write down your own good & bad qualities and also that of your spouse.  - Write down what you seek in a life partner , your expectations, your desires. Write down the pros and cons in your relationship and discuss this with your spouse.  - Establish clear separation goals and timelines. If you wish to be separated temporarily or permanently a...

An unreciprocated love affairs are another way a narcissist tries to control you. This happens to alot of strong successful people who get charmed by narcissistic people who treat you like a third wheel in their existing relationship. Making it a toxic love triangle.  In today's world, the term "friends with benefits" is mostly related to an unreciprocated love affair. This is usually a no strings attached relationships among friends, colleagues. And narcissist are mostly the ones who will try to initiate such a relationship.  In such relationships, you will always be the person who constantly there for them when they need a quickie (sexual gratification) day or night, especially when their significant other has no time for them. They know that you weakness is to get their love and attention and a little attention thrown your way will give you the reassurance that you are worthy of their love. They will never commit to you. But you won't be ...

Being blocked or ghosted can cause significant emotional distress and mental health issues for individuals, particularly in the era of social media. Ghosting is when someone suddenly stops responding to messages or calls, while being blocked means the individual cannot contact the other person at all. Both actions can leave individuals feeling rejected, confused, and anxious. "I am Blocked" syndrome is a kind of sepration anxiety growing from a mix of past abandonment issues plus a continuous karmic cycle of being ghosted, blocked & gaslighted  by the same lying, cheating, manipulative narcissist. All the redflags 🚩 telling you something surely wrong ❌. They try to control how you reciprocate their actions by ghosting, gaslighting or blocking you. They do it repeatedly till you become like a puppet in their control.  Even when you are not blocked, you will still feel so terribly anxious everytime they don't answer your call or you see "N...

Gaslighting is a dangerous trend that has become increasingly prevalent in recent years. This form of emotional abuse involves manipulating someone into doubting their own perceptions and reality. Gaslighters or narcissist often use lies, denial, and other tactics to make their victims question their sanity and sense of self.  The effects of gaslighting can be devastating, leading to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues. Victims of gaslighting may feel isolated and alone, co-dependent as they struggle to trust their own instincts and seek help. In short they loose track of their own independence & individuality, to an extent that they they can't even recognize themselves in the mirror.  Gaslighting can happen in any type of relationship, whether it's romantic, familial, or professional. It's important for individuals to be aware of the signs of gaslighting. The red flags 🚩 are domestic violence, constant lying,  domination, man...

Binge-watching a TV series is a popular way to distract ourselves from the stress and pain of a breakup. One show that seems to be particularly helpful in this regard is F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Watching F.R.I.E.N.D.S. can provide a much-needed escape from the reality of a breakup. The show is lighthearted and funny, which can help to lift our mood and make us feel better. The characters are relatable and endearing, which can make us feel less alone and more connected to others. The relationship between Ross and Rachel is most relatable characters in the series, as their journey through love , divorce, and becoming parents can draw similarities to real life couples.  In addition to providing entertainment and distraction, F.R.I.E.N.D.S. can also teach us valuable lessons about relationships. The show deals with topics like friendship, family, love communication, trust, and loyalty, and watching the characters navigate these issues can help us gain insight...